all this pain is an illusion 

reason above emotion

If we are true to our hearts and minds, ignoring harmful emotion and jealousy, the things we anticipate to be so hard become perhaps the exact contrary, amazingly simple. Pure love withstands all emotion. Knowing ones heart is how you get there. When we kind of "lose control" of our thoughts are we really not just simply losing control, but relinquishing thought power to someone. Whether it be another being specifically, is to be determined(I don't know). But the control goes somewhere else. I believe we are constantly surrounded by other beings, even in seperate dimensions not visible to us. They're energy exists and we are affected by it.
The initial thought of ourselves (intuition) or other human beings are just simply cognitions. Yet when those pure thoughts, once exposed, no longer within our being; they can become subject not only to influences of other humans but that of these energies as well. Sometimes to lessen cognitive purity, to darken it, turn it to fear. Other times luck comes into play and the influences can be perceived as good.
It is our internal good and reason to be able to step back and review what occurrance has ensued and how the pure thought or pure mind may have been affected by these extra dimensional beings. Being aware of their existence and energy makes me able to place myself above the influence. Giving more personal POWER!! and maintaining internal rationale and reason. "Over thinking, over analyzing seperate the body from the mind!"-MJK, TOOL (Lateralis)